How is a mother’s helper different from a nanny?

The name says it all; a mother’s helper assists the mother (or other stay-at-home parent) with whatever she happens to need.


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The Rise of the Mother’s Helper:

The Quiet Revolution in Family Support

By The Australian Nanny Agency – July 2025

In the evolving landscape of parenting, one role is quietly becoming a lifeline for modern families: the mother’s helper.

Unlike traditional nannies or babysitters, a mother’s helper is someone who works alongside a parent — not in place of one — to make daily life smoother, calmer, and more manageable. With families juggling remote work, school pick-ups, newborns, and the emotional load of parenting, this role is rapidly gaining traction across Australia.


What Is a Mother’s Helper?

The name says it all: a mother’s helper supports the stay-at-home parent — often a mum, but not always — in whatever way is needed.

They’re not hired to take full control. Instead, they’re there to assist, whether it’s by entertaining a toddler during a Zoom call, helping prep dinner, folding laundry, or giving a parent five precious minutes to shower.


Unlike nannies, who are typically employed to manage children independently, a mother’s helper remains under a parent’s supervision.


They are often hired when:

  • A parent works from home and needs to concentrate
  • A new baby has just arrived
  • There are multiple young children needing attention
  • School holidays create chaos
  • The mental load of parenting is simply too heavy

It’s the kind of role that doesn’t always show up in job boards — but makes a world of difference in a household.


The Duties of a Mother’s Helper

No two families will use their mother’s helper in the exact same way, but here’s a list of common tasks:

  • Childcare support: reading to children, supervising play, changing nappies
  • Household help: doing the dishes, tidying toys, light laundry
  • Meal prep: preparing snacks or easy lunches
  • Transport: driving children to school or activities
  • Homework help: assisting with assignments or reading practice
  • Errands: grocery runs, post office trips, or basic admin help
  • Emotional support: simply giving a parent time to breathe, shower, or reset

A mother’s helper might watch the toddler while the parent nurses a baby. Or they may keep the older children occupied so mum or dad can catch up on emails. It's a role built on flexibility and trust.


A Growing Need in the Modern Household

In decades past, extended family often lived close by and provided this sort of help naturally. Today, many families are isolated — living away from parents, siblings, or old friends. At the same time, the demands on modern parents have increased dramatically.


“People imagine parenting support in extremes: either you do it all yourself, or you hire a full-time nanny. But there’s a huge space in between,” says a senior recruiter from the Australian Nanny Agency. “That’s where the mother’s helper fits.”

It’s not just for new mums, either. Single parents, work-from-home dads, families with neurodiverse children — they’re all seeking this type of backup.


Mother’s Helper vs. Nanny: What’s the Difference?

While the titles are sometimes used interchangeably, the distinction matters — especially for expectations and pay.

  • A nanny typically works independently and may be responsible for children while the parents are completely away from the home.
  • A mother’s helper works under the supervision of the parent and is considered more of a second pair of hands.

Many families who don’t yet feel ready to leave their children in someone else’s care feel more comfortable hiring a mother’s helper.


Can This Be a Pathway Into Childcare?

Yes. Many early-career childcare professionals begin as mother’s helpers before becoming full-time nannies. It gives them a strong understanding of parenting styles, family routines, and the soft skills needed to work with children in a real-world environment.

At the Australian Nanny Agency, we place both experienced and emerging professionals into mother’s helper roles — depending on the family's needs.


Finding a Trusted Mother’s Helper

Parents may be tempted to hire a neighbour’s teenager or ask around in community groups. But when it comes to safety, background checks, and reliability, it pays to go through a reputable agency.


At the Australian Nanny Agency, we place qualified and experienced mother’s helpers in homes across Australia.


Every candidate is:

  • Reference-checked
  • Working With Children certified
  • Personally interviewed
  • Matched to your family’s personality and lifestyle

We’ll also help you decide whether a helper, nanny, governess, or hybrid role is best suited to your family’s current stage.


Real Families, Real Impact

“We hired a mother’s helper when our second baby was born and our toddler was in full chaos mode,” says client Lucy from Brisbane. “She would come in for just a few hours a day so I could nap or catch up on laundry. It honestly saved my sanity.”

Another parent, Samir in Melbourne, shares: “I work from home and have twin preschoolers. A helper gives me time to take client calls without screaming in the background. It’s been game-changing.”

Ready to Find Your Helper?

Whether you need a few hours a week or daily support, we can help you find the right person to ease the mental load and bring calm back into your home.

👉 Book a call with us today and let’s talk about the kind of support your family truly needs.

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FAQs About Mother’s Helpers

  • Is a mother’s helper suitable for dads or non-birthing parents?

    Is a mother’s helper suitable for dads or non-birthing parents?

     Absolutely. We place helpers with stay-at-home dads, co-parents, and grandparents. The term “mother’s helper” is traditional, but the support is for any primary caregiver.

  • Can I hire a helper just two or three days per week?

    Can I hire a helper just two or three days per week?

     Yes. Many families only need a few hours of help a few days a week. Our placements are flexible and can be designed to suit your schedule.

  • What qualifications do your helpers have?

    What qualifications do your helpers have?

     All our helpers have experience with children and hold current Working With Children Checks. Some also hold first aid certificates and early childhood credentials.

  • Can a helper assist while I work from home?

    Can a helper assist while I work from home?

     Yes. This is one of the most popular reasons families hire a helper — to stay productive without completely stepping away from parenting.

  • Is this service available in regional areas?

     Is this service available in regional areas?

    We serve all major cities and many regional locations across Australia. Contact us to find out who’s available near you.

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